What Happened When I Learned to Belong to Myself First

As long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to be good at everything. The good parent, the good friend, the good employee, the good partner, the good community member. 

I wanted to be successful. I wanted to be liked. And I sure as hell didn’t want to screw anything up or disappoint anyone.

I knew that getting it right all the time was impossible, but it didn’t stop me from trying. I used to walk through the world with questions like this running through my head on repeat:

Am I doing enough? Am I doing this right? Am I upsetting anyone? Do I belong here?

It was exhausting. And, of course, it was NEVER enough.

At some point, I started feeling so very tired of it all.

Tired of feeling drained. Tired of beating myself up. Tired of feeling chained to things that I knew wouldn’t matter in the end. Tired of feeling like my life was a test, and tired of swallowing down the yearnings I felt to really show up in my life. 

I knew there were so many places where I was hiding, putting aside my own joy and needs, and playing it small and safe. 

I wanted to be one of those people who could stand strong in their own truth, know they are enough, and care a lot less about the things that don’t really matter.

But I had no idea how, and it felt selfish to focus so heavily on what was right for me (who the hell do you think you are, Jenn?).

Life coaching gave me access to something I’d been missing all along: a way to wholly trust myself. A way to belong to myself so fully that there was nothing left to prove.

I didn’t know that when I could tap deeply into what’s true for me and get anchored in that truth, the rest of the noise just sort of falls away.

I didn’t know that trying to push aside my fear and guilt would do me no good, but that I could learn to work with them and keep them out of the driver’s seat of my life. 

I didn’t know that courage was something I could practice and develop, or that I could use my body as a tool to guide me along the way.

Let me tell you, once I knew how to do these things, everything changed.

Now I trust myself more than the “shoulds,” more than my fears, more than the guilt. 

In my life, this has looked like

. . . letting go of what I “should” do and giving myself permission to say no.

. . . leaning into more rest and play.

. . . embracing the magic of aiming for a B- (in just about everything).

. . . saying goodbye to a 15-year career that never felt quite right.

. . . shifting from being highly risk-averse to becoming someone who embraces uncertainty.

. . . stepping away from spaces, places, and relationships that were draining me.

. . . launching my own business and leaving my full-time job--in the middle of a pandemic and an economic recession--and feeling 100% awesome about it..

What might happen in your own life if you could trust yourself? If you could release what doesn’t matter? If you could stop looking outside yourself to see if you’re being and doing enough?

I can help you get there. In just 12 weeks of one-on-one coaching, you can learn and practice tools in a safe, supported space and start to see the magic happen in your own life.

I can’t wait to see what happens for you when you learn how to deeply trust and belong to yourself. Hop over here to learn more about working with me.