When my grief was so palpable that I could barely remember how to breathe, I wrote what I needed to hear. As we honor the Winter Solstice, I offer these words to you. Perhaps they might hold something that you need to hear too.

It’s normal to have feelings of guilt and even betrayal when happiness finds you, but that is different than believing that you don’t deserve good things or pushing away joy.

Naming and understanding ambiguous loss

Different patterns of grieving can lead to conflict and isolation; here’s how knowing more about these two styles of grieving can help.

Reflections and reminders on caring for yourself and honoring your grief through the holiday season

Don’t ask yourself what you’re grateful for. Try these questions instead.

What might it look like if your grief and gratitude sat side by side, simply breathing in the same space?

You aren’t obligated to feel grateful in your grief.

Grief activates grief. If you’re feeling extra tender right now, it might be more than what you’re aware of on the surface.

When you’re grieving, there’s so little of your brainspace that’s available for skillfully handling people’s unhelpful advice or nosy questions. This is where scripts come in.